Nearly every breakup leaves someone with a broken heart. It is rare when two people come to a mutual agreement and part as friends, with no animosity or hurt feelings. When those rare cases do occur, both parties know the reason for the breakup. They are not in love with each other anymore. But when your ex boyfriend said he needed space, you knew he was not telling you the real reason for wanting to break up with you. That is what makes it so confusing. You do not know what made him unhappy, and you still love him and want him back.

Your friends and relatives will give you many different versions of the real reason your ex boyfriend began pulling away and broke up with you. They will tell you that you are better off without him because he was never in love with you to begin with. But you were the one that felt his warmth and how attentive he could be. You know he felt something for you or he would not have acted that way. From the other extreme, they will say that he got cold feet and ran because he was falling too deeply in love with you. You can take your pick from the many reasons you will be offered for the breakup, but none of them are apt to be right.

In the end, you will have to face the fact that the real reason your boyfriend began pulling away and broke up with you is something you did to make him unhappy and lose interest in the relationship. You did not do it intentionally, but you were so much in love with him that you wanted everything to be right for him and in your effort to make it so, you smothered him. Men need a certain degree of freedom and if you are always hovering over them, they can begin to feel trapped.

Another mistake you might have made is being too available. You were always there waiting by the phone for his call. You picked it up on the first ring and let him know that you were ready and waiting whenever he wanted to come by. You might think this would make him happy, but in reality it made things dull and uninteresting. You were too predictable and offered no challenge to him.

To overcome the real reason your ex boyfriend began pulling away and broke up with you, it will be necessary for you to ignore him. Do not have any contact with him. Go out with friends and be seen having a good time. Appear to have accepted the breakup just fine and you are moving on with your life. Once your ex boyfriend hears of this, he will think he might lose you to someone else. The thought of losing you will make you more desirable to him and he will begin trying to contact you. It would be best if you do not take his calls for a few days. This will make him desperate and he will begin the chase to get you back. This will make him happy because all men love the chase.

If this is the man for you, don't give up. There are proven methods to make him love you like never before.