is there a magic word or words that you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?

I know that in your actual situation is hard to believe that there are words that can make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call, but believe me there are.

Isn't that Cool?

I am going to answer now "How do i get my ex to return my phone calls, text or IM?"

BUT WAIT......

*** WARNING! ***

It is very important that you do not use these strategies and techniques alone, you must have an 'overall' plan or you may damage your relationship more than if they never return your call.

*** What NOT to Say! ***

Before we get into details lets see what NEVER works and worse...

Puts you in an AWFUL 'psychological' position.

You can fall into 2 categories.

The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like

"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."

And the EMERGENCY-

"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this."

Now, do you see what is wrong with both of those approaches? So, I won't go on and on...

*** How To Use Self Interest and Curiosity To Your Advantage ***

There are TWO Powerful forces in human minds and those things are

*Curiosity & *Self Interest

That is the Big Secret!

You will have to manage and combine both, so that you can have the exact recipe that WILL work like 'magic'

So now we can look at what you can say and you'll see it works nearly EVERY TIME.

In a friendly tone:

"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."

Do you notice how the TWO human elements are used to your advantage?

John will NOT be able to resist! "What did I do?" "What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a "positive message". And is should recall "positive" as your principal weapon.

Now You must be prepared for call back...

You'll have to set up your answer, which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.

It can be just a small thing, but needs to be plausible.

But more importantly...

*** 2nd WARNING! ***

Remember that you must have an underlying strategy because if they call you back you Can do more damage.

Okay?

What I am saying is...

What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.

Make sense?

Rooting For You, Ben