This is a tough topic. I've had so many emotional experiences about this, it might be hard to talk about.
But I feel the need to really spread my wings here, and share something very personal.
I'm talking about breaking up with women, letting them go because you care about them.
Now how could you break up with someone, because you care?
Most of the time, the women that I've dated wanted more from me, and were not happy with what I was willing to give in terms of time, affection, etc.
And I could see that this was making them unhappy and hurting the other aspects of their lives, because they were obsessed with winning me over.
It was BECAUSE I cared about these women, and any women that comes into my life, that I had to make the tough call and let them go.
Now this isn't my usual M.O. I believe in "Casual, Ongoing Relationships."
Basically, I share friendship and intimacy with the women in my life, without promising anything more.
I felt this was a problem that needed to tackle, because nothing's worse than stringing someone along and making them think there is something special, when it isn't.
Here's a letter from a guy that I received a few months ago.
"... I definitely talked to a good number of women this past weekend.
I ended up hanging out with one girl on Monday. I flew out Tuesday, and I told her this, so she knew what the deal was.
It happens that she has relatives in New Jersey, within 40-60 minutes of where I live.
I'll be honest - she sucked in bed.
But she seems to be in love with me. She calls me at LEAST 2 times daily. I just avoid it (on my cell).
How do I let her know to stop calling and let's just be friends?
PS - this is a question I wouldn't have even asked a year ago I would have been so happy just to get laid!!!!"
Wow. What an anticlimactic ending there...
But it's a good illustration of how a guy thinks once he feels he can approach and attract attractive women.
All of a sudden, he has choices, so his standards go up.
No longer are you happy just to get a goodnight kiss from a "cute" woman.
You want great hook up from at least three or four BEAUTIFUL women.
And there's nothing wrong with that. You deserve it!
The thing is, once you get to that point, it's no longer necessary to think about picking up women or what to say or how to stand, etc, etc.
The need for conscious effort goes out the window, because everything flows from your reality:
Hot women love you.
You have great sensually and you're good in bed.
You can meet more anytime.
Think about what an effect these beliefs would have on your personality.
That's the kind of reality I want for you.
