I have been where you are. More than anyone, I recognise simply how you you're feeling. It is a dark, sad spot you are in. Almost like a narrow tunnel in which you can barely breathe and the light at the end has disappeared. From all my own experiences, let me first say, you can get over him fast, things will get warmer, you will see somebody new and you are more than precious of both happiness and passion.

You may ask yourself why you don t want get over him? Do not look badly that you are still not over this guy. Everyone says time is the best healer, and while that may have some truth to it, it’s a guideline, not a warranty. And I know that when you experience a breakup, it feels like the people around you give you an unspoken time-limit in which to get over ex boyfriend. They will be kind and sympathy for a while, but when you’ve reached the period where they think you should be over it, they seem to stop listening. And this alone makes you feel alone in your emotions and like a failure for not being able to get past it earlier.

Everyone cures at his or her own tempo. Four months may look long time to one individual, but for you, the bruises are still fresh and the scars still painful. And it does not count that you never had a traditional "boyfriend or girlfriend relationship" because physically and emotionally, the bond between you two was deep and your feelings and emotions ran very extreme. You are not a failure. You are a human being. Empathize that, accept that.