How can you tell if you are in a toxic relationship?

Here are some clues:

· Your partner puts you down (verbally) in front of others · While your partner says he/she loves you, his/her actions don't back it up · Your partner is taking controlling - reading your mail or "showing up" at places where you are just to "check up" on you. · Your partner tries to make you dependent on him/her · You are force to change yourself c to please your partner

In reality you feel sick to be around toxic people. So, why would anyone end up in a toxic relationship? Why would anyone want to be with someone who makes them feel emotionally or physically hurt?

A toxic relationship goes round in predictable a cycle. There's a honeymoon period, followed by a blow up, then by a reconciliation - at which point the cycle begins again. You want to get out but feel helpless and trapped by your own nagging feelings of uncertainty about the relationship.

How do people become toxic personalities?

One reason is they grow up in toxic homes. As a result, they replicate the patterns of their childhood. And, they may not know better about hey kind of relationship they have created. The bully in a toxic relationship holds the selfish belief that his/her behavior is for the good of the relationship. He?she couldn't care less about the other party's feelings or suffering.

But the first step in getting out and staying out of toxic relationships is to realize that you do have choices. Often people who stay in these couples have low self esteem or suffer from insecurity complex.

Start believing that you have choices. Once you realize that you have choices you'll find it easier to stand up for yourself. In most toxic relationships, the toxic partner has conditioned your mind that it is all your fault. Once you buy into this, it can be very difficult to either walk away from the relationship or set new limits to heal the relationship.

For some people, working in therapy groups can help them either get out of or redefine these horrible relationships.

The good news is that some people are able to break the cycles of toxic relationships. Some of them leave the relationship and form new, healthier bonds with others.

But there are also others who are actually able to repair their relationship and stay in it.

The truth is that most relationships can be salvaged. Sometimes it takes a little space. At other times counseling helps. But what ever steps are taken to successfully rebuild the relationship it requires the agreement and compromise of both partners.

The first thing you need to decide is that the relationship must improve or you're walk away. If you aren't willing to walk away, you'll never be able to heal that which divides you.

Once you have liberated yourself from the dependency that is binding you to the toxic relationship, you can begin to assert what you need from the connection. Don't nag the other person. Simply say "I need your support," "I need your love," or "I need your truthful opinion."

If you don't get what you need, the other person should know that you're prepared to walk.

A healthy relationship is a two way street. In a toxic relationship, the street is only going one way. You have the power to change that, but you must be willing to take the power into your own hands and begin the repairing process.

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