It is very easy to find yourself in a dating relationship where the man seems afraid of disturbing the status quo. This can be very frustrating if you would like your relationship to move forward into a serious commitment. Do you have to resign yourself to the situation and wait for when he will finally be ready to pop the big question? Or should you leave him in his stagnation and find someone new? None of these choices is good, and it is not a matter of choosing a lesser evil. There are definite steps you can take in order to take control of the situation and get him to commit.

Although it is something that frustrates many of us, dealing with a boyfriend who seems afraid of committing is not really complicated. The problem is that many women usually go about it the wrong way, making things even worse. If you are in such a situation, you should use the right approach and the man will be yours.

Don't push

One of the biggest mistakes that many of us do is to try to make the men see the sense by talking about the issue incessantly. Your boyfriend will interpret this as your attempt to push him into a corner, and he won't thank you for it. When he notices that you are trying to force him with the idea of marriage, he will become even more resistant.

Remove commitment out of your mind and plans

The best way to influence your boyfriend to seriously get him to commit is to actually steer clear of the subject. Show the man through your actions that you are not thinking about marriage. You should not just avoid making comments about your own marriage but even those of your friends. Anything that will bring the issue to mind should be avoided, including the books you read and programs you watch.

Make your own plans

Instead of focusing on marriage, make your own plans that will take you away from him. For instance, you may go out with your girlfriends instead of him.

Such steps will make the man realize that you have an independent life and he risks losing you if he does not get serious. As a result, he will take measures towards making a commitment.

As you can see, there are simple things that you can do to get him to commit to you. You just have to go about it the right way and you will find that it is fairly simple.