You might be surprised to learn that all you thought you knew about building trust in a relationship "ain't necessarily so". You may think that one of the quickest fixes may be to spice things up a little.
My friend, you would be dead wrong. Believe it or not most relationships flourish in part due to predictability and not change. If you'd like to grasp these seven fool proof methods to guarantee a loving and trusting relationship, read on.
First and foremost savor the idea of being predictable in some areas. It goes against the grain of all you've ever been taught but follow this line of logic. It is the steady and consistent patterns such as common courtesy or remembering those things that attracted your mate in the first place. Trust is built layer upon layer and day by day.
Be a man or woman of your word. You don't say one thing then do another. Let your body language and facial expressions always relay the truth of what you are saying or thinking. It is imperative your partner be able to trust you even in that respect.
Show your partner that you believe in their common sense and that you value their opinion from small task to even larger than life issues. Not doing so you run the risk of not building the trust a healthy relationship requires to thrive.
One of the most important keys is not to keep secrets. Keeping secrets is a definite trust buster. Honesty, especially in relationships is truly always the best policy. You'll find if you live a life of keeping secrets it becomes harder and harder to keep things together and you'll end up using energy that could have best been used to build trust.
Communicate openly about how your partner can help meet your needs. None of us are mind readers. You may find yourself smothering your partner thinking you are perceiving their needs when in fact you are trying to make up for the needs you want fulfilled. During verbal sharing or answering those needs, don't be afraid to say "no" It is perfectly healthy and natural for your partner or yourself to express certain needs. However, it is okay to not agree to everything. You run the risk of your partner losing respect for you or thinking they can get away with everything if you don't say no every now and then.
Always stay in a pursuit of personal growth. Think of it as planting new ground for a bud that will one day bloom into a beautiful flower.
You begin the planting process by digging deep into the dirt. Often it can be like that in a relationship where it feels like we are digging down to China, but that is the way the soil of the relationship is prepared for future thriving. Those times of crisis or turmoil fertilize the relationship aiding in growth patterns. Lastly, learn to embrace change. As you work through the relationship you will be rewarded with an orchard filled with those things that make a strong, loving and trusted union.
